Event of the Month

I went to this that is my official first blog (there are now others on other sites yet to be developed; as they contain 'blog' options on 'main' pages) after several weeks of not being back for awhile. Returned because I was entering my profile into another site that requested a webpage, and I thought this was appropriate for where it was going, until I reflected on the content for 'public consumption'.

What are the odds that these musings would be seen and interpreted out of context or used in a way that's not in the original spirit? Well, during the month I ran into vacationing family members in a city of many millions at the exact moment they were on the same subway platform. If that can happen, anything can. I also noticed that the entries already here were each from a previous month, and that nothing had been added for this one.

After pondering for a moment, I decided another page created on another forum was better for now. I'd started it because a mentor had requested 'saying hello' on his page there, and I had to join to follow through. 'NBD', as this generation now texts, which I don't ('no big deal'). There is now represented there individuals of all ages and backgrounds, including politicians (!). It's been a site I've unconsciously avoided until just recently, due to its being known for catering to a younger crowd, not to mention those who 'look' for the same. It's wishful thinking to entertain that just because a full cross-section of the country online now goes there that the questionable activities have diminished, but I can dream can't I?

So, as I immediately put myself under pressure simultaneously creating a 'profile', letting the world know I exist where like minds have been known to gather, while wondering what profound bit of 'universal' wisdom could be added here. A month passing with no entry was not an option; I knew I could come up with something.

As 'luck' would have it, and to my astonishment, as I hadn't recorded anywhere the page ID that was where I'd created it: on the page itself, I went to the site and instead of entering a username and password, I entered my name in the search box. What came up wasn't my page, though my name certainly did. I hadn't noticed that it was my first name on the actual page I'd created (which is just fine).

The search results had referenced a quote of mine I'd recorded on the web some time ago elsewhere. I remember what had inspired it (another mentor's inquiry), and it remains entirely mine, though how they found it remains a mystery. It wasn't just one reference to my now 'famous' quote, listed amongst others who are either well-known or 'immortal', but two! I went to the pages linked to the search results and was pretty overcome. Both who had chosen to include my words seemed to have obtained them from different sources, nor would they necessarily know each other; the chronology and how it was listed was completely different.

The Event of the Month came to me within seconds of my summoning the inspiration, a natural law in action, in a way whatever conscious ability I have now to create was 'topped'; what I expected to find searching for 'myself' illustrated that I'd been 'discovered' by others, and quoted no less. Little do they know I'm right there with them, another 'first name', grateful for certain 'secrets', for now.

Name of offender known by enough

Written 4/12 p.m. during AC360 (get-well wishes to the NJ Gov., representing another form of fallout that is only beginning): As I write this, he's with them "apologizing" and "tears are being shed". All from one person with 'influence' and an accepted illusion of 'power' having verbally denigrated them, once. Imagine what it's like for hundreds of thousands of women in relationships that have reached the threshold of 'dangerous', also 'acceptable' to the point that if she reaches out for help, it isn't considered 'serious' unless there are documented records of physical abuse; to answer the most 'predictable' question in advance, she doesn't leave because 75% of violent incidents occur when she tries to leave or afterward (sometimes years later), even if 'nothing' happened previously within the household.

And while we're on the subject, the media is now saying that the Duke rape 'victim' is now a 'liar', because her allegations could not be substantiated. According to law, it may or may not have happened; there were simply no 'reliable or credible' witnesses or 'evidence'. By the same token, the players may or may not have been guilty, and are now getting 'applause' as 'innocent'. One of them said, they 'could only imagine' what it would have been like for someone with limited or no resources, like the 'alleged' victim, perhaps? The person 'apologizing' here is merely doing so for expressing 'bias' before 'all' was presented. Usually the bias is simply not so obvious or visible.

If it happened, they can go and do it again, even smarter now and reinforced for what they got away with (like OJ). They could be 'innocent', the point is as in the former scenario the same 'legal' tactics are used against real victims who come out to save themselves (usually with children involved), only to be dismissed or further legally abused because the 'only' witness was a child (with no acknowledged rights), and requests for protection are denied or ignored. Many die this way, literally or spiritually, in this country, often.

"parallel events"

Seems it's that time of year: everything is happening at once, and in one 'body' I often 'wish' lately I could be three places at one time, or be able to take calls in the middle of meetings or while empathetically listening to the concerns of a longtime friend. Though in the infinite wisdom of the universe, this 'body' doesn't do any of those things, so perhaps that the event that caught my attention at past the half-point had its own purpose in occurring when other significant things were going on.

I'm letting it all go, and passing it on, making a note that this time next year, 'our' world will be different, and those of us whom I've been blessed to make contact with up until this time are aware that perhaps it might be good to schedule our annual events at times that do not overlap so that we can all share more, and be there for each other, for what we have in common. My 'job' (or 'joy') is passing on what can't be absorbed in just one 'body', not taking for granted that something of significance always is on the radar of those we might 'expect' to know the same: why we choose to be there for each other. So this time next year and in the interest of all the moments in between, making time for each other during our annual events that are often consuming will happen at times when we can at least know of each other, so that purposes in common can move forward together. And to be perfectly clear, I mean the collective 'we', not just 'me' and 'you':

"Parallel Events organised by UN Missions, UN Entities and Inter-Governmental Organizations"

The entry that follows the links is condensed from the comprehensive schedule that began last week and continues into this one, during which I'll be attending other events that took as much time to plan (by many equally dedicated souls); my intention is that those that created these and where we were know more about each other going forward. The respective causes merit collaboration, so that more children have more opportunity sooner still. You may know more of the acronyms than I do. Feel free to share.

http://www.un.org/womenwatch/daw/conf/seforms/dspUNcalendar.asp

http://www.un.org/womenwatch/daw/conf/seforms/dspUNcalendarUN.asp

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ILO

Financing for gender equality and the empowerment of women

CSW Bureau and co-sponsored by: UN Division for the Advancement of Women

Partnerships for protection in the education of girls

UNICEF

A (Afghanistan) to Z (Zimbabwe) of Tackling Discrimination against Women and Girls

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The role of men in promoting gender equality: The experience of the EU

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UN Special Rapporteurs, the Human Rights Council and NGO Networking at the 51st Session of the UN Commission on the Status of Women

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UNDP

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State of the World's Children and Women: The double dividend of gender equality

UNICEF

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International Council of Jewish Women and co-sponsored by: Zonta

Legislative Advocacy on the Elimination of Violence and Discrimination Against the Girl Child

International League for Human Rights and co-sponsored by: Friends of Africa International

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Role of Men & Boys in Achieving Gender Equality Review Topic

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International Women's Tribune Center IWTC

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World Association of Girl Guides & Girl Scouts

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Penal Reform International

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International Fellowship of Reconciliation and co-sponsored by: IFOR Women Peacemakers Program

The Girl Empowerment Strategy under the Concept of Gender Mainstreaming

Simply Help, Inc.

Creating Global Change with the UN Study on Violence vs Women

Zonta International and co-sponsored by: International Council of Women, Soroptimist Int'l, BPWI, IFUW

Female Infanticide

Worldwide Organization for Women

WOMEN’S RIGHTS ACROSS OUR BORDERS: Root Causes in an Uprooted World

International Women Judges Foundation

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Violence Against the Girl Child: Consequences Across the Life Span

NGO CSW NY Subcommittee on Violence Against Women

Crimes Of Honor Against Girls & Women

Asia Pacific Forum on Women, Law and Development

Towards The Health and Well - Being of the Girl- Child

International Health Awareness Network

Small Funders: Big Ideas

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VIVAT International and co-sponsored by: NGO Committee on the UN International Decade of the World's Indigenous Peoples

Too Young to Wed: Ending Child Marriage in Developing Countries

International Center for Research on Women (ICRW) and co-sponsored by: International Center for Research on Women, UNICEF

Violence of the girlchild in work situations: challenges and responses.

International Alliance of Women and co-sponsored by: FIDA, NYWBA

Legal Mechanisms to Protect the Girl Child from Neglect, Abuse and Punishment from around the World

International Federation of Women Lawyers FIDA

Womanhood and motherhood: how to be a world changer

Endeavour Forum Inc.

Discrimination and Violence against the Girl Child: Health Disparities

Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. and co-sponsored by: NCNW, NAACP, Links

Forming Movement of Girls and Boys Against Violence and Discrimination

Kenya Alliance for the Advancement of Children and co-sponsored by: NGO Committee on UNICEF

Advancing the Human Rights of Girls: NGOs' approaches in Moving Girls' Rights Forward

Canadian Federation of University Women and co-sponsored by: 1. Canadian Federation of University Women and 2.The National Council of Women of Canada

Health of Girl Child is Global Wealth

Medical Women's International Association and co-sponsored by: National Council of Women( NCW) , American Medical Womens Association(AMWA)

Media exploitation of girls as a form of violence against girls

National Alliance of Women's Organizations and co-sponsored by: UK Asian Women's Conference, Women's National Commission, European Women's Lobby and International Council of Jewish Women

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Federation Europeenne des Femmes Actives au Foyer

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Women's World Summit Foundation and co-sponsored by: The Millionth Circle

Legal Perspectives for Advancing the Status of Women and Girls Invitation Only

International Federation of Women in Legal Careers FIFCJ & Partners

Building a Mentally Healthy Environment to Promote Gender Equity for Girls

World Federation for Mental Health and co-sponsored by: Mental Health Association

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United Nations Association of San Diego and co-sponsored by: United Nations Association Pasadena-Foothills Chapter; Fifty-Fifty Leadership

Mothers Empowering Daughter, a panel of experts including the US Parents of the Year in a presentation on Conference related issues.

Association of United Families International

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International Women's Tribune Centre and co-sponsored by: Asia-Pacific Women’s Watch

Protecting the Girl Child HIV/AIDS Orphans

Lawyers Without Borders

Girls Building Peace

Worldwide Organization for Women and co-sponsored by: World Vision, International Federation of Univeristy Women

UN Security Council Resolution 1325

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Women's Learning Partnership for Rights, Development, and Peace

Workshop on the Responsibility to Protect and Peacebuilding Commission

World Federalist Movement and co-sponsored by: World Federalist Movement-Inst. for Global Policy and Centre for Conflict Resolution

World Peace Begins at Home

Worldwide Organization for Women and co-sponsored by: World Peace Parents

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PDHRE

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International Save the Children Alliance and co-sponsored by: SAVE THE CHILDREN

Challenges Confronting Women's Leadership

National Council for Research on Women

Mental Health Implications of Violence and Discrimination against the Girl-Child: Prevention and Interventions

NGO Committee on Mental Health

Women Rights, Child abuse and Human Rights

Peace Worldwide and co-sponsored by: Peace Worldwide

The Secretary General’s Report on Violence against Children: Eradicating Sexual Exploitation

Women's Bar Association of the State of New York WBASNY

CSWs: Institutional mechanisms to enhance the status of women and girls

Women's Commission Research and Education Fund (National Association of Commissions for Women)

TheGirl Child: Critical Awareness -impact of global media

National Council of Women of the United States Inc. and co-sponsored by: Nat'l Assn of Negro Bus& Prof Women's Clubs, Knowledge Trust,